17 Essential Questions You Must Ask Your Online Match Before Meeting Them IRL
We live in the era where online dating is at its prime. There are tonnes of apps out there, and it seems like every day more pop up with a new and different angle. And while I've got no issues with online dating, it does take away the good ol' fashion way of finding 'the one' - in person. But we've seemed to have adapted to this online dating culture and I don't see it going away any time soon.
Online dating is actually really hard and can be super awkward, let's be totally honest! Without having met a person, you have to determine whether or not you're both compatible enough to want to sit down with on an actual date. One of the best ways to determine how you're going to do that, is by asking the right questions that will put you somewhat at ease.
I've used online dating apps on and off for awhile, and in one memorable situation prior to meeting up with the guy, we used to do this thing where he would ask me a random question, mid conversation, and I would have to answer then reply back. It was a fun way to get to know things about him before going out with him for the first time.
With that in mind, here are a few questions, that'll hopefully send you in the right direction on whether or not you are ready to meet the gorgeous person you've matched with online!
1. What motivates you to get out of bed in the morning?
This is a good conversation starter, and one that really kick starts your conversation on a more serious note that, "hi you're hot, let's link up". Everyone has something that motivates them in life, and to ask them what that is really tells the person you're trying to get to know them.
2. Did you go to school? And if so, Where do you go to and why?
Not everyone's profile tells you where they went to school. Did they go to an ivy league-esque school? Or the party school? Was their major the whole reason they attended? Whatever the reason it may be, this helps you to kind of see what helps that make big decisions.
3. What is your most bizarre talent or quirk?
This is a fun one! We all have that one thing about us that stands out and finding out what makes the person unique is entertaining. If they're willing to share this with you, then you can tell that this person is open and welcoming.
4. Who is your biggest role model?
Everyone has someone they admire, so this is a good general question to ask online daters. Influential figures are important to your date for a reason. You can find out a lot about a person by getting them to describe someone they hope to emulate.
5. What is your favourite movie, book or TV and why?
This might be a very unoriginal question to ask, but it is a classic for a reason. People enjoy talking about their favourite things so this one is usually a great ice breaker. And of course if you share any of the answers in common, even better!
6. What is your typical Saturday night?
This is a low-key way of asking "are you a wasteman", alcoholic party animal, a Netflix loving, take out kind of person, or something else entirely. Every answer comes with own ups and downs, it all just depends on your taste.
7. What is a cause you're really passionate about?
There is nothing like hearing someone tell you about their passions. People's face lights up and their eyes twinkle and they can talk forever about this topic when something is really special to them. Now, this may be behind a phone or computer screen, but when people are really passionate about something, it will shine through even a piece of technology.
8. What are some of your interests?
You may think, "aren't passions and interests the same thing?" and the answer would be, "yes and no". They can be totally different things or can align with people's passions, so this is a question worth asking.
9. Are you religious?
While this might be a touchy topic for some, other might be very open about it. A question like this can really help you see if a person's values are similar to yours or not, or if you are able to align with them.
10. What is your go-to drink on a night out?
Another pretty standard question. Are you going to be splitting pitchers, getting wine drunk or enjoying an ice cold cola? It is very important to know before hand for sure.
11. Where does your family live? See them often?
Family values are pretty important to most people. And if they aren’t? While that’s acceptable, you want to be sure that the other person’s perspective on family matches yours. Future you would want to know!
12. What is your favourite kind of vacation?
Beach bum, or thrill seeking traveler? In the future should things pan out will you be splurging to lounge on the beaches of the Caribbean or will you be walking on the Great Wall of China? This also gives them and you a chance to talk about previous vacations, expanding the conversation.
13. Why are you on here?
Here as in whatever online dating profile you might be on. This will help you weed out and determine whether or not this person just wants to hook up and have fun or find an actual committed relationship, and if that is what you also want.
14. What about my profile struck out to you?
Ideally this does the same as the previous question and goes more in depth by directly targeting their intentions for just you. You can end up getting a more direct answer that won't be a copy and paste. If he or she only states general things that might just be changing someone's name for yours, you'll know.
15. What is your favourite embarrassing story?
Finding someone who has the ability to take themselves not too seriously at times is so so good. By asking them this, not only gives them the chance to tell you a good story (because let's be real, embarrassing stories are hilarious), but to also showcase their sense of humour.
16. What's an accomplishment you're most proud of?
It is okay to let someone brag about themselves. You are allowing them to be really proud of something that they've done and that let's them know that you'll be a great person to meet in person because you are making them feel good about themselves.
17. Would you rather swim with sharks or go sky diving?
Random questions are hilarious to ask to keep the person on their toes! t opens the door to telling stories, sharing fears, or making jokes. If you’re an adrenaline junkie, you can highlight your adventurous nature with this type of question.