Relationships in 2016–what are they? They're based around social media and it's hard to find someone who is willing to compromise with you because of what we think we should feel due to the false accusations of love in the media. Guys are supposed to be assholes, and girls are supposed to chase after them until they finally fall in love, right? Wrong.
Dating is scary, but it's so worth it to find that person who just gets you. Often, people use the terms from the movies as an excuse to get out of relationships. The spark, the connection, all of that stuff is what we've learned about over the years but I think it comes down to intimidation and lack of confidence in ourselves. Relationships take work, and they're not always easy but sometimes we're scared because people seem too good for us. Here are 9 prime examples of girls that guys are honestly afraid to date:
1. The Independent Girl
The one who doesn't need your approval to do anything, and enjoys her time alone as much as she enjoys her time with you. She doesn't need to see you everyday to know you love her, but being this independent makes guys insecure. They like to feel needed, so they steer away from the girls who are fine with or without them.
2. The Girl Boss
The one who isn't afraid to go out there and get everything she wants. This can intimidate guys, especially those who want to be the breadwinner in the relationship. When a girl is invested in her career, it should be a sexy trait, not a negative in the relationship. But guys are afraid to date them because want to be known as the strong and successful ones.
3. The 'I'm BFFs With My Ex-boyfriend' Girl
You know, it's extremely possible for exes to be great friends. It should be a quality that is admired, not looked down upon. It's a mature decision between two people to stay connected after ending a relationship, but some guys cannot handle girls having close guy friends. This type of girl can be trusted, and should be trusted as it says a lot about who she is and how big her heart it. Some guys seem to run the other way when they hear the new girl they're dating was just texting their ex, but don't be afraid to trust that she love him as a friend, but she loves you.
4. The Smart AF Girl
You went to college for business and she is doing her masters in psychology. You're not dumb, and she's not the smartest person in the world but she works hard. Guys like to win arguments whether they like to admit it or not, but when a girl has the upper hand, they don't like that. This hurts their pride, however girls don't care what your job is unless you have one. It's your personality and they way you treat them that matters–and you should love her for her brains, not use it against her.
5. The 'One Of The Guys' Girl
Is it bad to date a girl that's considered one of the guys? The good thing is that you'll have so much in common, but guys are afraid to date these kinds of girls because they're intimidated by them. Are they better at sports? Can they chug more beer than you? Honestly, who gives a shit? Be proud that you found someone who you can share similar interests with. Don't be embarrassed by her ability to get along great with your friends.
6. The Stubborn Girl
The one who knows what she wants and won't settle for any less. She has her eyes set on a personal goal, and she won't let you or anyone get in the way of that. Girls believe that they should change for a guy to get them to like them, but this kind of girl won't do that. This kind of girl has worked hard to get where she is, and she has a take it or leave it approach to dating. When guys get into this kind of situation, it scares them.
7. The Flirty Girl
Yes, she may be a flirt. No, she doesn't actually like any of the guys she's innocently flirting with. When girls flirt without knowing it, it's mostly because she's friendly and she's in a deep conversation. Guys believe if they catch their girl flirting then that means she must be thinking about cheating. Incorrect, my friend. You're afraid to date this kind of girl because she's known to be a flirt, but you won't know how loyal she is until you trust her enough to show you.
8. The Mysterious Girl
You have such trouble breaking down her walls, trying to understand what's going on in that head of hers. But this may not be a bad thing. If you stick with it, you'll gain her trust and you'll see those walls slowly break down. The problem is that guys run away from this because they don't want to deal with emotional baggage. Uhm, hello? Everyone has baggage, and you'll never find someone who doesn't. If you're willing to help her break down those walls, then she'll be willing to help you do so.
9. The Party Girl
So what? She loves to party on the weekends. No matter what kind of guy says he doesn't like clingy girls, guys also don't enjoy when girls can go out and have fun without them. Again, it's intimidating and they want to be wanted. When you're dating a party girl, it's not hard to trust her but trust those around her. A girl can't win, if she doesn't like to go out to bars, she's antisocial. If she does, she's too much of a partier and it's hard to handle. There can be a middle ground if you let there be.