Okay, so maybe the word 'perfect' is a little much. I mean after all, the real question is who really is perfect? To be honest, if someone held me up on a pedestal of being someone's perfect anything I'd probably fvck it up because of the pressure to come through. So yeah, maybe perfect isn't the right word but when it comes to bae they're either the best or the worst.
If you clicked onto this article you're either somebody's girlfriend looking for validation that you're doing something right or you're somebody's boyfriend looking for reasons to see what bae isn't doing. I mean both are legitimate and valid reasons but just keep in mind that perfect is subjective and that despite all the superficial reasons that anyone could ever come up with, if your s/o makes you feel safe, happy and respected then all that's enough for a start to a solid foundation
But for those of you who just want to visibly check off your accomplishments (and/or failures), here's a list of signs that you have found the one who is perfect and worthy to have your heart.
(PSA: Once again, bae not come clutch with a few qualities on this list. Don't take it too seriously and remember that despite the ideal dynamics ingrained in our heads by ooey gooey rom coms, every relationship runs on a different dynamic that may be different however not at all any less validated as another.
This article is not responsible for the savage beating of the petty girlfriends out to punish their baes for not completing the following list.)
1. He listens to you.
Everyone wants to be heard, don't get me wrong. But listening is a key part of communication that establishes that he understands your thoughts and actually considers them when making his own decisions. If he can stay focussed during a two hour rage rant from you or when a serious conversation about feelings comes up, then he passes!
2. You are more than just a fling to him.
You're more than just a one night stand. You're more than disposable. You're more than a fling. And if he sees you as someone valuable enough to actually cherish and keep, then he passes as well.
3. He gives you space.
And by space I mean he allows you to have a life without him always there by your side. He allows you to pursue a career, your dreams and to hang out with your friends without constantly calling and monitoring your ass. Everyone needs their space, even if it's away from bae.
4. He accepts all of you.
You may think you're a piece of shit, and who knows for all I know you might actually be a piece of shit. Hey, I'm not here to judge but if he can accept all your inevitable flaws and all and still love you unconditionally then he's real and so are his feelings.
5. He does whatever he can to make you feel comfortable.
Whether you feel fat when looking in a mirror, or you're simply cold outside and need his jacket, if seeing you uncomfortable makes him uncomfortable then it shows a sense of loyalty and compassion that you can rely on as a significant other.
6. But tells you what you need to hear.
Just because he's dating your ass, if you're being stupid then he's not going to hide it from you simply because you'll get offended. No, a true bae knows when you need to straighten yourself out and rethink your actions. The purpose of a relationship is to balance each other out to try and grow together into better people. If he doesn't make you a better person then has he really done his job?
7. He trusts you.
Going back to giving you space, he trusts that you know better than to do anything scandalous behind his back. He won't screen your call history or constantly ask where you are because there's no need to worry about something you already trust.
8. And you can trust him.
If you can go a night without calling him to see if he isn't with another woman, then you've shown that you can trust him. He deserves the same trust and space that you do. Showing trust and respect indicates that there's nothing to be paranoid about because you know where his interests lie and it's with you.
9. He's good with your family.
No matter how bae he is, he is never going to come between you and your family. Sure maybe your parents might not always like the guys you pursue but if he's made the effort to bond with the most important people in your life then that should let you know that he's all in to love both you and your family.
10. He shows his affection for you in some shape or form.
Whether you're dating a romeo or an Edward Cullen, he's gotta show his affection for you in some way whether it be a surprise date or simply a kiss on the forehead because despite how long the day has been or how bad it has gotten, it reinforces that it doesn't change how you feel about each other.
11. He cooks.
Okay, this may not be a 'must do' on the list, but a man who cooks is automatically twice as attractive. Feed my stomach while you feed my heart!
12. He respects you not only as his girlfriend but as a human being.
Respect is one of the many important values that one can have in a relationship. If he respects your boundaries and your values then he can respect you as an individual and as a human.
13. He'll be there for you.
When the rain starts to pourrr. But in all seriousness, if he's there for you whenever times are tough and you need someone to simply be there, then he's shown that he's reliable and is willing to do what it takes to prove his affection.
14. Despite your crazy ass he's willing to compromise and get through whatever patches you're facing.
Let's face it, although most of the time you think that you're always right... sometimes you're not. Don't take it offensively but it's true. And it's going to get frustrating for him when you continue to be a pain in the ass. But despite how bitchy and bratty you are, if he can handle you at your worst then he deserves you at your best!
15. He loves you.
This should go without saying but honestly, simply saying 'I love you' even once a damn month makes a huge difference in a relationship. Love is a simple yet complicated word to address and define. And it varies form person to person. But when you truly feel in your gut that he realllly does love you, then most of the time you know you've found your guy.