There are a few couple things that one can easily get over-- increased public transit rates, the death of our favourite character on TV, the discontinuation of white hot chocolate at Tim Horton's etc. Yup, don't get me wrong, it doesn't take long to get over a few things but unfortunately one of the few things that that are tattooed on both our minds and hearts include that ex who broke your heart which led to a really messy break up that you relive over and over.

You're sad, miserable for what seems like forever and it's totally understandable--- but honey it's time to move on and get on with yo' life! Luckily for you psychologists have been trying to answer the age-old question, "how do I get over it?". That being said, here are a few ways to get over that pesky ex that won't leave your heart.

1. Date yourself.

I'm not saying to go all psychopathic and literally date your reflection. Treat and pamper yourself because you can feel like a princess all your own without the involvement of anyone else.

"There is a philosophy called ‘dating yourself’ that is a perfect mindset for anyone to have if they want to get over their ex."

– Jennifer Seiter, founder of Ex Boyfriend Recovery


2. Get busy!

Don't let this breakup tie you in bed for 3 weeks and let life pass you by. Get busy and occupy yourself with the everyday tasks and responsibilities that would normally take over your mind. If you're thinking about running errands all day, who has the time to think about that ex? Some might call it distraction, others just might call it being productive.

"Doing things YOU like to do with other people will lift your mood and distract your mind from ruminating about the relationship."

– Dr. Sanam Hafeez, NYC based licensed neuropsychologist and teaching faculty member at Columbia University 


3. Live, love & learn.

Don't let this breakup stop you from fully loving others and living everyday on top of the world as you deserve to. But the most important 'L' in this formula is to learn. Learn from your heartbreak and take this as an agent of growth to become a stronger person and partner.

"Learn from the past. Stop and take stock of what’s changed in your life since you began that relationship."

– Dr. Erika Martinez, licensed psychologist


4. Think of what you won't be missing.

It's easy to wallow in their smell, their laughs and all the other lovely things that you'll be missing. But in fact, you should stop thinking of what you lost and what you'll be free of. You're a free person now and you sure as hell deserve the best and only the best and if you didn't have the best then it wasn't worth it at all.

"The problem is, your brain can’t start putting this in the past unless it understands that your ex was not ALL GOOD or ALL BAD."

– Dr. Paul DePompo, ABPP and author of the book, “The Other Woman’s Affair


5. Surround yourself with people who absolutely love you.

So what if that idiot let you go and broke your heart? That one idiot does not account for the many people who love you and adore the shit out of you. If there's one secret to heartbreak, it's that you can't go through it alone.

"Don’t isolate. You don’t have to go right out and date again – in fact, I suggest going slow with that – but you should have a social life with friends and family."

– Tina B. Tessina, psychotherapist and author of “It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction

Source: Elite Daily

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