We all have that perfect guy in mind that we hope to fall in love with, get married to and live happily ever after with. He'll buy you flowers every day, text you 'good  morning' every time you wake up, and buy you gifts simply because he wants you to be happy. He'll be smart, sweet, and all your friends and family will love him. He'll be super talented and super good looking, he'll give you magic carpet rides on a whim and save you from the wicked sea witch trying to take over your kingdom too. And he'll always be there fight a dragon that's trying to burn your castle down.

Oh yeah, he sounds perfect.

Too perfect.

The thing is is that although in theory that sounds great, you are not going to get all of that. You are never going to find a guy who fulfills all our expectations - and you shouldn't close yourself from anyone less than your unrealistic expectations. Because just like us girls, men are going to be just as flawed. Maybe he doesn't drive, or he doesn't attend to your every need. Maybe he doesn't have a six pack ab rack or he doesn't make a 100K annual income - that is no reason not to love what is perfect about him.

I know that growing up I had a list with ideal qualities of a guy that must have been met in order for me consider him. It had standards like he had to be smart, had to be cute, had to have a perfect smile, had to be Asian, had to play a musical instrument and had to have the same religious values as me. It was all or nothing. And that closed myself off from a lot of guys who were perfectly good people, but just didn't know how to play the piano or had a crooked smile. At the time I had the impression that this was all protecting myself from people who weren't good enough for me, or who were going to hurt me anyway. Little did I know that there's a reason why I've never been in a relationship yet, and it was because there is no one guy with all my specific qualities. And if you do find someone who satisfies all the criteria on your list, you're still more likely to enjoy the company of someone who surprises you by not perfectly fitting your exact expectations.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that this perfect guy who we imagine we'll someday find doesn't exist - Prince Charming does not exist. And that's fine. For years, women have been fighting to be accepted for who they are despite their flaws towards men. I think we can all agree that 'perfect' might just be too much to ask for from anybody, and if we're being frank, if you yourself can't provide it then I guess you don't deserve the right to demand it either. I don't know about you, but these guys deserve the same right to be openly accepted despite their flaws and imperfections.

So maybe you haven't found your Aladdin on his magic carpet, or maybe Prince Eric is still off at sea for you to find him. That's perfectly okay because you'll surprise yourself one day with someone who's better - just the way they are. 

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