It's completely normal to experience heart break after every relationship - even if it only lasted a month. When people start dating, they subconsciously set expectations, drawing a perfect picture and envisioning a long lasting relationship.
Unfortunately reality is, not all relationships are meant to last forever. There is a reason the person came into your life, whether you end up being together or not. Instead of holding grudges, you should view your past short term relationship as a lesson learned. Here are 11 reasons you should be happy the relationship didn't last:
P.S You'll thank them later.
1. You learn to appreciate yourself.
Short term relationships usually come to an end because two individuals can't accept each other for who they truly are. At first, it may seem as if the two of you are perfect for one another but everything can change within a week. Just because a relationship didn't last with someone, doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Short term relationships teach you how to appreciate yourself as a person for who you are and come to a realization that not everyone is meant to be together.
2. You'll notice the good and bad.
You can never change the first impression, that's why short term relationships will teach you how to notice the good and bad qualities in a person. Your initial meeting will either have you fall head over heels for a person and their good qualities or make you run the opposite direction because of their bad traits. That month long relationship will help you realize the things you do and don't want to see in your significant other.
3. You become a stronger person.
Yes, at first you'll be confused as to why the break up occurred. Short term relationships end out of no where, when you least expect it. Trust me, in the future you'll thank that asshole for breaking up with you, because they've made you a stronger person and taught you how to cope with sudden heartbreak.
4. It's ok to be sad.
At the end of the day, we're all human beings. There will be happy moments but there will also be times where you'll go through 10 boxes of kleenex from all the sobbing. A short term relationship will help you understand your emotions and accept the fact that it's ok to be sad.
5. Think before you act.
They say you should count to three, to avoid making irrational decisions. Sometimes anger or frustration may have you say or do things that you'll regret momentarily. Often times, people will break off a relationship because it's something that you said or did irrationally. Remember, you should always think before you act in order to avoid miscommunication problems and assumptions.
6. You learn not to "settle" just because.
Many people jump into relationships "just because" they want one. Consequently, relationships often don't last for this reason. After a short term relationship, you'll come to the realization that you shouldn't settle for anything less than you deserve or be with someone just because you want a boyfriend/girlfriend.
7. Don't try to change someone.
No person can truly change themselves. They could potentially change their habits or develop common interests with you but there is no way he/she can become a completely different person just because you want them to. People don't change, they adapt to situations. A short term relationship will teach you that there's no point in trying to change someone. Perhaps it didn't last because your personalities didn't match; this is completely normal because you're only destined to be with that "one."
8. People aren't possessions
Maybe your relationship ended so quickly because you became that "control freak." You can easily push someone away if you treat someone as a property. Trust can easily be broken if you tend to control and manipulate someone. If there's no trust, there can be no relationship.
9. There's a difference between lust & love.
People often mistaken lust for love. In my opinion, there's no such thing as love at first sight because it can easily be misinterpreted for lust. There's a spark at the beginning of every relationship because it's something new and exciting. However, often times this spark will dull out because you realize the infatuation you had for someone was just an illusion.
10. Love is a two way street.
It takes two to tango. A relationship will not last if one person is putting 100% and the other is contributing 0%. It's impossible to love for both people. Consequently, relationships don't last long because one person is putting in more effort than the other. In order for your relationship to be complete, both individuals need to love and care for each other equally - love is a two way street.
11. They've taught you a lesson
Every person has a purpose in your life and there's a reason for why you met. This 1 month boyfriend/girlfriend came into your life to teach you something about yourself. The things you would like to see in a person, the things you like about yourself and the things you need to improve on.
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