Relationships are hard, especially if they are long term. When you're in a long term relationship with somebody you will likely witness them go through a lot of changes and vise versa.
Sometimes you learn to embrace and these changes, and other times you end up not being able to adapt. Either way, both outcomes are completely natural.
If you've been with your partner since high school, or just a long time in general maybe it's time to reevaluate whether or not you're still in your relationship for the right reasons.
1. Your future plans don't necessarily involve them
If you can't see them fitting in with your future plans, there is most likely a reason. It's okay to be a little selfish, especially when you're young. It's okay for your future not to cater to their needs, because it's your future. If they're really important to you, you'll find a way to accommodate them.
2. You get FOMO from your single friends
If you're constantly jealous of your single friends that get to swipe through Tinder, or dance with random people at the bar, then its probably time to rethink your relationship. You shouldn't feel like you're missing out if you're actually happy in your relationship.
3. Your relationship is holding you back
Your significant other should be encouraging you to live up to your full potential, not hindering you from doing so. If you feel like your relationship is holding you back from achieving your goals then maybe it's time to fly solo for a while.
4. You don't trust your S/O
It's not healthy to constantly be worrying about who your partner is with, what they're doing and where they are. Remember that a relationship is supposed to bring you happiness, not constant confusion and concern.
5. When you're asked if you're in a relationship, you hesitate
If you're hesitant to tell people you're in a relationship, there is definitely a reason why. You need to face this problem head on, because it's not fair to put yourself through a relationship you're not proud of, and it's definitely not fair to your partner.
6. One of you is insanely jealous
If you or your significant other is constantly weary of new people you're hanging out with, or friends you spend time with, then it's time to call it quits. Your romantic relationships should not negatively effect other relationships in your life.
7. You've grown too far apart
A lot can change in a couple of years, especially if you've been with the same person since you were 16. It's very natural for you to have new interests, goals, and things you find attractive. If you and your partner are no longer on the same page with what you want from your relationship, then maybe it's time to say goodbye.
8. You avoid telling them things because you think it will hurt them
Nobody wants to be lied to, period. Even if you think that you're protecting your significant other by leaving part of a story out, in the long run they will definitely get hurt. If you're doing things you feel the need to hide from your partner, then you probably shouldn't be doing them.
9. You're scared to be single
If you've been with the same person since you were 14, then yeah being single can be terrifying. It's okay to be scared of not having someone to talk to 24/7, or having a default date to everything. But it's not okay to stay in a relationship out of fear for being lonely (they make ice cream and wine to help with that fear).
10. You've met someone new
If this is the case, don't feel guilty. You can't control your feelings, but you can control your actions. Make sure you break things off with your partner before starting something new with someone else.
11. You feel obligated to stay with them
This is something nobody should ever feel. Be in a relationship because you love the other person, not because you feel like you have to love the other person. Big difference.
12. You're reading the article
If the fact that you clicked on this article wasn't enough of a sign, then.
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