Summer is quickly coming to an end, and cuffing season is slowly creeping up on us. That means you'll soon need to decide weather your summer hookup will be graduating to winter cuddle buddy, or maybe even significant other status.
The decision to become "official" can be a little tricky. It's hard to know what the other person is thinking, especially when you've only been seeing one another for a few months. If you're questioning whether your summer romance should continue into September, of fizzle for the fall hits then this article is for you.
1. You've partied together more times than you've actually hung out one-on-one
A lot of people have a much easier time socializing after a couple drinks, especially when it comes to someone you might have feelings for. Although, if you haven't taken the time to get to know each other on a sober level or without your group of friends, there is a good chance that you won't get to once the summer ends.
2. You don't plan things with each other in advance
Mainly because you don't want to "make it weird". If you're too afraid to insinuate that you might still be talking/seeing each other/ hooking up/ within a months time, then you probably won't be.
3. You feel uncomfortable asking if you're exclusive
This is a super tricky conversation to have, especially when you're not sure if you have the time to bring it up organically. Although, if you're curious you should always ask. This way you'll get your answer and you won't waste you're summer wondering "what if?".
4. You haven't met each other's families
If you haven't introduced them to your parents or vice versa, then there is a good chance you won't be sticking around. Once somebody sees you as a more permanent and consistent person in their life, they will be willing to introduce you to their family. But realistically, they won't go through all the awkward small talk and embarrassing childhood stories for a friend with benefits.
5. You go multiple days without talking/texting
In most serious relationships people like to check in with their significant other every now and then. But if you're just receiving the Friday night texts, then you're probably not their first priority.
6. You don't post about one another on social media
I'll be real, even when I'm in a committed relationship I'm not somebody who likes to plaster my love life online. I totally understand wanting privacy in that aspect in your life, but if you're not doing it for privacy reasons then maybe you need to rethink thinks. If you specifically avoid including them in your snap chat stories or Instagrams, you might want to ask yourself why. It could be that you want to keep your options open, or you don't want to seem obsessive, either way you're avoiding it at all costs.
7. You constantly still split the bill
It's totally fine to split the bill, even when you're in a long term committed relationship. But if you feel weird about them buying you an ice coffee from McDonald's during dollar drink days, then you're probably not ready for the commitment of a relationship.
8. One of you (or both of you) still have dating apps installed on your phone
"I don't even use it" is code for "I use all my dating apps after a bottle of wine". If you or the person you're interested in still has dating apps installed on their phone, it means they're still open to other options out there.
9. You haven't talked about what's happening between you two once September comes
If you're going away to school in September, or they're leaving for a job, you can basically bet that your "relationship" will be coming to an end. If you really think this person is special, you need to suck it up and have the "what are we?" conversation. If not, you're going to be sending drunk "I miss you" texts mid way through October.
10. If you read this entire list, then it's probably time to deal with it
Realistically, if you clicked on this article you're clearly questioning a few things in your love life. Or you're my mom and you read all my articles, Hey Trish!!
But on a serious note, put your grown up pants on and have a conversation. See if you're both on the same page, and go from there. You don't need me to tell you what your relationship is or isn't. Good luck!
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