These Are The Sure Signs You're In The Wrong Relationship According To Science
Are you and your S.O. in it for the long haul?
When you're in a relationship, it's not uncommon for your judgment to become clouded. Since you're so actively involved, it's not always easy to see it for what it truly is.
Luckily for us, a great deal of research has been conducted in order to determine what makes relationships successful. We've rounded up some of the top indications that you're in the wrong relationship, according to scientific research.
1. You think you can do better.
If you constantly find yourself wondering how much better you can do, they probably aren't the person for you. In a study completed at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and Purdue University, researchers gave a name to these thoughts: the quality of alternatives. If you're constantly considering other possible options, it ends up undermining your relationship's strength and increasing the chance of negative behaviours.
2. Your S.O. doesn't encourage you to be a better person.
If you're not growing as a person in a relationship, it's easy to feel stifled and held back. Researchers at the University of Michigan describe this as the "self expansion theory." According to the theory, we naturally seek people who encourage us to make positive changes and try new things, and dislike those who do not allow us to do so. If your partner doesn't encourage you to become a better you, it's unlikely you'll be satisfied with them for the long haul.
3. Your friends and family don't think it's going to last.
It's pretty common sense that if your family doesn't like your new boyfriend, you might be less likely to keep him around. A study at the University of Waterloo asked people in relationships to make guesses about the future of their relationships, and compared those predictions to ones made by the friends and family. In most cases, those in the relationship predicted that it would last two times longer than what their friends and family thought. In general, the predictions made by family and friends were much more accurate.