We come from a generation line that always tells you to be independent. They tell you that in order to get far in life, you're going to have to sort through all your demons alone. They tell you that you if you rely on someone else, then you are weak and too dependent to function. They tell you that independence inevitably equates to isolation which is a sign of strength.
And they couldn't be more wrong.
Yes, in some ways you do definitely have to learn how to rely on yourself without the help of others. However, that does not mean to say that when you do you are any less validated as an independent bitch. Independence is the confidence one possesses to act with no restraints or anything holding them back. It's the way in which we choose to walk and never look back. It's the way in which we continue to make our way through life relying on our values alone. And it's what gets us through the fear of being rejected.
But in other ways, it's a completely bullshit idea to think that we are capable of fully living without someone to rely on once we decide to slow down. Because the reality is that no matter how fierce and independent you may be, it gets lonely and exhausting to constantly dodge from people who simply want to be your friend, or even something more.
We're all biologically made to want to connect with someone and build relationships with people. We're all biologically made to crave a hug when things get bad and no, it's not something to be ashamed of and it doesn't change the fact that you're an independent person.
Sometimes you just have to break down a few of your walls and let a few people in who won't hold you back from doing your thing but will be there when you decide to slow down and rest. Beyonce has Jay Z, after all.
I'm not saying that you need a man, but you need someone. Someone to support you when you're unsure and weak, someone who'll be there when you're lonely and sad.
Someone who is good enough to let you do your own thing and catch up to your speed whenever you need them to.
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