There's no denying that living in Toronto in your 20s is pretty sweet. Between the incredible bars and restaurants and the massive young professional scene, living in Toronto during your 20s is one of the greatest experiences.
That said, life as a 20 something doesn't come without its downfalls. Because you're still getting to know yourself as a person, there are going to be times where you'll make the wrong decision. I'm here to tell you that that is 100% okay.
Every experience is a learning lesson, and sometimes the only way that you'll grow is by making these mistakes for yourself.
1. Going on a few bad Tinder dates.
Ah, Tinder. Being a 20-something during the age of dating apps is one of the trickiest parts, because it's pretty impossible to judge someone's character just by swiping right. You will have a few fun experiences.
2. Spending all your OSAP money at Tequila Jack's.
Particularly in your early 20s (aka before you knew better), Tequila Jack's was the site of way too many blackouts, and where you spent way too much money on Pornstar shots. But without those nights, how would you have learned your limits? How would you have learned maybe you shouldn't take out $80 which is supposed to go to textbooks and instead buy 20 shots for all your new best friends that you met in the washroom?
3. Waiting over 15 minutes in line for a club on King Street.
When you're young and want to be in the coolest bars with all your friends, it can be tempting to do whatever it takes to get in. What you'll realize as you get older is that for the most part, a bar is a bar. While wait in the freezing cold in a mini skirt and heels, you should eventually learn to round up all your friends and head to a bar that won't make you wait.
4. Paying $25 just for cover.
Pretty much the exact same as above.
5. Dating someone who isn't right for you.
We've all had those relationships where we look back and wonder what we were thinking. But dating the guy/girl who didn't treat you right ends up teaching you what you don't want in a relationship and will help you understand what traits you are looking for, so that when the right person comes along, you'll be ready for them.
6. Working a job you hate.
When you're starting out in your career, you're inevitably at the bottom of the food chain and doomed to menial tasks. Hang in there. It sucks having to do bitch work, but every job has something you can learn from it. At the very least, working a shitty job builds character.
8. Spending your savings on things that aren't "practical enough."
Your 20s are the age that you can spend money on things that you are passionate about, even if they aren't necessarily the most sensible options. You can focus on life experiences like taking that trip, rather than saving for a down payment on a condo.
9. Living at home because you can't afford to move out.
Rent in Toronto is notoriously expensive. If your family is from the city, it can be pretty hard to justify paying approx. 20K just to live on your own. While society is quick to stress the significance of independence in your 20s, you need to make the best decision for you. If living at home gives you the financial flexibility to pursue opportunities you might not otherwise be able to.
10. Not taking your parents' advice.
When it comes to jobs, relationships, and general day to day life, parents always seem to know what's best. While having your parents to guide you through tricky situations is helpful, it's important to listen to your gut and learn to make mistakes on your own.
11. Drifting from old friendships.
In high school and university, being popular/having the most friends can seem like the most important thing. As you get further into your 20s, you'll have less time for socializing and you might end up drifting from friends. This is 100% natural. Having fewer, closer friends is one of the advantages to being in your 20s and helps you prioritize your time.
12. Worrying about what other people think of you.
In your teens and early 20s, it's pretty much guaranteed that you're going to stress about how those around you perceive you. Putting too much of an emphasis on what other think is a harmful habit that we just have to go through before we can realize that the only person we should be trying to impress is ourselves.