20 Clear Signs You Should Stay In Your Relationship Or Leave ASAP
Do they deserve another shot?
Relationships are always tricky. Even if you're the perfect couple, you're bound to run into a few bumps along the way, it's just an inevitable fact that comes with life! There comes a time in every relationship, usually after a big fight, where you consider if the relationship is worth it or not.
It's always a tough situation because on one hand, you love them and you've already put so much into the relationship, but on the other hand, you could just continue to get hurt if you stay.
If you've reached a breaking point in your relationship, and you're having a hard time deciding if you should stay in your relationship or leave, hopefully this article can help out a little.
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Leave ASAP: They're extremely jealous when you talk to other people
If your partner is jealous when you only talk to another guy, or girl, then there's a big problem in your relationship. You should be able to maintain healthy relationships with friends outside your romantic relationship with them. If they're constantly monitoring your whereabouts and who you're talking to, it's probably time to leave.
Stay In Your Relationship: You had a huge fight
Sure, big fights are terrible in relationships, but it usually doesn't take just one to end a relationship. If you had a huge fight with your S/O and it wasn't something major then it's definitely okay to stay in the relationship. You'll work it out eventually, it just might take a couple more fights first.
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Leave ASAP: You spend a lot of time thinking about what else is out there
It's normal to think about what else is out there from time to time when you're in a relationship but if you find yourself thinking if someone else would listen to you more, communicate more or be more reliable then there might be some clear problems in your relationship. You may need something else that your partner just can't give you and you just haven't admitted it yet.
Stay In Your Relationship: You feel respected and supported
If you go through the occasional rough patch or have big fights every once in a while, as long as you feel safe, respected and supported in your relationship, you should stay. If you're both willing to give each other space and trust that they'll be there to talk it out when you're ready, it's probably a healthy relationship that you should hang onto.
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Leave ASAP: Your partner has a major character flaw
There are a lot of character flaws that should probably cause you to end the relationship. Problems with alcoholism, drug addiction, habitually cheating, the need to tell lies constantly and a lot of others. If your partner won't at least try to work on these problems or get help for them, it might be time to move on.
Stay In Your Relationship: If you're going through a rough patch
Every relationship is bound to hit a rough patch at some point. Life gets stressful and things get more complicated as you go along, but that doesn't mean you should leave at the first sign of difficulties. If you work through the rough patch together it's only going to make your relationship stronger.
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Leave ASAP: There's ANY type of abuse in the relationship
If there's any type of abuse present in your relationship, whether it's physical, verbal, emotional or sexual, you should absolutely leave and seek help from a victim's shelter. Abusive relationships can get extremely dangerous very fast and can even become life-threatening. Seek help from your family and friends or any abuse-related help centres nearest to you.
Stay In Your Relationship: The good times outweigh the bad times
If your relationship doesn't include any abuse, because that is absolutely unacceptable, you should stay if the good times outweigh the bad. If your partner is still the person you want to talk to after a bad day. If they're still the first person you want to tell good news to first. And if they're always going to be the one who understands and loves all your little quirks, it might not be time to give up on them just yet.
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Leave ASAP: You're just going through the motions in your relationship
Sure, you could still be going on dates every weekend, giving each other compliments and the occasional gift, and having sex but if nothing is spontaneous and fun you might just be going through the motions. If you're not actually enjoying the relationship, it might be time to leave.
Stay In Your Relationship: You're still attracted to them
This isn't the most important thing in a relationship, because you can be attracted to someone who treats you horribly, but it still is something to consider. If that spark is still there you should consider sticking around because maybe you can still work through your problems.
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Leave ASAP: One of you is still hung up on your ex
If one of you are still pining after your ex, still talking to them on a consistent basis or even hooking up with them occasionally, your current relationship probably isn't working. By thinking about your ex it's showing your partner that you're not emotionally available and the relationship can't move forward.
Stay In Your Relationship: Your difficulties are only circumstantial
Maybe you're in a long distance relationship, your work schedules don't match up or one of you is going through a stressful time in their lives, any of these circumstances could make a relationship difficult. But these circumstances won't last forever and if you can make it through them together, your relationship will end up stronger in the end.
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Leave ASAP: You're waiting for your partner to change in order for the relationship to work out
If you're waiting for your partner to change their minds about having kids or change any personal or moral values then that's a clear sign the relationship won't work out. You should either discuss a compromise or just cut your losses because you can't expect the issue to go away by ignoring it, it will eventually come up again down the line.
Stay In Your Relationship: You hear each other's frustrations and concerns
If your concerns are heard, your fights feel productive and your frustrations are taken seriously, it's a good sign that your relationship is working and moving forward. If you're not having the same fight over and over, you're definitely making progress.
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Leave ASAP: Your partner's little quirks that you used to love are now driving you crazy
Maybe it's eating with their mouth open, maybe they leave the light on in the bathroom at night, or maybe they snore when they sleep. All these little quirks could have been cute at the beginning but now you can't stand when they do this around you, it could be a sign that the relationship is coming to an end. Fixating on smaller things in a relationship is a way for you to ignore the bigger problems when you're just not ready to let a relationship go.
Stay In Your Relationship: Your friends and family like them
If your family and friends like the person you're dating, then it's a good sign that your relationship is working. It takes a lot for your S/O to win over the people in your life that already love you, so if they can do that you're probably dating one of the good ones.
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Leave ASAP: You spend more time with your friends, at work or watching Netflix than with your S/O
Spending time with your friends, enjoying some much-deserved alone time, and working hard at your job are all great things that you shouldn't have to give up in a relationship. But if you're constantly choosing these things over spending quality time with your S/O it might be a sign that the relationship isn't working out.
Stay In Your Relationship: You like who you are when you're with them
If you feel like your partner brings out the best side of you when you're with them, it's probably a good sign that you've got something special. A lot of relationships can turn sour and you can end up bringing out the worst in each other, so it's important to hold onto someone who is good for you.
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Leave ASAP: Things aren't moving forward and there's no explanation for it
There won't be a bright future for your relationship if things don't move forward and for things to move forward you have to keep the intimacy alive. If your partner makes excuses about introducing you to their friends or family, won't talk to about your future or refuses to open up about themselves it might be a sign that things aren't working out.
Stay In Your Relationship: You're both willing to try harder to make it work
A relationship has a good chance of working out if you're both willing to try harder to overcome your problems. As long as you're both on the same page that you want to make the relationship work, it probably will!