Reducing all men to two extremes "nice guy" vs "bad boy", "alpha" vs "beta", "dominant" vs "submissive" is problematic. funny enough, this is the kind of thing that actually drives guys to act in manipulative and shady ways. Only driving these stereotypes.
Guys are so much more than a media-fuelled type and have complex emotions and inner lives like everyone else. However, some try to forcefully hide it. Caught up in an act, a lot of guys attempt to play the part. So concerned with how others will perceive them - especially girls - they end up coming across as glazed-eyed emotionless robots and falling for these one-size-fits-all pick-up artists tactics of seducing women. And fail miserably. Of course.
On the other hand, a special breed of guys exists. Those that embrace their true nature. These dudes are sincere, genuine, and humble - those who know they are imperfectly perfect, they are the ones that end up coming across as the most charming and dreamy. It goes against the classic fairy tale trope, but most girls end up falling for the awkward guy, just because - he's real.
In the next pages we will be exploring the "anatomy" of the awkward guy, what is he really like and what you need to know if you are dating him or considering it. We will look at what you can expect from the first interactions, hanging out and in a relationship. We will also zoom in real close and shed light on the awkward guy during conflict and behind closed doors. Read on for more!
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It's quite the opposite, in fact, the awkward guy is the master of the slow play - which i might add - he's not even doing consciously. There's no room for petty game playing in the mind of an awkward guy. He just naturally moves at a pace that he find comfortable.
So in the case of the awkward guy, he will probably clumsily introduce himself to you, and then maybe avoid you instead of talking to you, even though he likes you. Frustrating, I know.
This is because awkward guys are pros at overthinking things. And as a result, can get kind of nervous when approaching new people in unfamiliar social situations. Especially a girl that they like.
If you're eyeing a guy you may believe to be awkward, help him out a little bit by giving him VERY OBVIOUS signals of interest. I'm emphasizing very obvious, because on the receivers side, an awkward guy can sometimes have a hard time interpreting even the most obvious cues of interest.
That's why we often find bold girls paired up with awkward guys. Because, often time, he suck at making the first move. So, naturally, the responsibility will often fall on the girl. If she is also shy and awkward, then forget about it, never gonna happen.
Now, I know that many girls will be extremely squeamish and uncomfortable at the thought of making the first move. It's just not "traditional", right?
Get over it! It's 2017, we live in a post-gender world, if you want to land your awkward dude, go ahead, make the move. I'm sure he will glad that you relived him of that pressure.
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Awkward guys are a very conscientious bunch. On the whole, they love and stick to a cherished routine. Simply said, they are creatures of habit. In my opinion, this is a highly underrated quality.
Not to say that they don't enjoy spontaneity and adventure from time-to-time, but overall they know what they like and basically stick to that. They are very much in tune with themselves.
When it comes to getting together to hang out, it's always good to come prepared with a plan. Even if, at the back of his mind, he knows exactly what he prefers to do. He will always want to please you first.
This is because awkward guys tend to be very empathetic and sensitive to other's needs, so he may not feel super comfortable suggesting things to do at first, he may feel as if this is imposing his interests on you.
Rather, he will be more likely to ask you what you prefer to do. Or where or what you want to eat, before making his suggestion. Again, he's just being accommodating and sensitive to your needs. Don't be frustrated, this is actually a compliment.
Again, this is why the bold girl and the awkward guy make a good pair, because she isn't afraid to take the lead from time to time. And he can truly appreciate it.
This is what makes dating an awkward guy so special, they just ooze a genuine kindness and selflessness that cannot be faked.
If you find yourself dating an awkward guy - yes, it may be a bit frustrating at times, but know that these dudes are true unicorns that don't come around very often.
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Once again, awkward guys radiate this genuine and pure kindness and selflessness that just cannot be easily faked. As a result, they make great partners.
Also, awkward guys are generally terrible liars. Again, it all stems from their natural empathetic mind-set. They can't stand the idea of hurting someone they love.
The very though of lying or deceiving the people they care for just doesn't compute in their mind. So they just don't do it. Simple as that.
This also means that awkward guys are extremely loyal. They are not the type of guy who will off blindly chasing after some fantasy once you've settle down with him.
Its really the opposite, the awkward guy knows how to truly appreciate a great girls when he's found one. And will make sure to show her his appreciation regularly. No one will make you feel as secure as an awkward guy.
Long-term relationships can be, well - long. And the key to keeping things alive is always learning from each other knowledge and experience.
The awkward guys tend to be on the intellectual side. They love to read and nerd out over a good book or documentary. It's just their default mode of living.
This is why they make a great partner in crime. Because you can be sure that they will always keep you intellectually stimulated and teach you new things as the years go by. Don't forget to them something new, too! Awkward guys are knowledge sponges and love to learn.
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Inevitably, in any relationship, conflict will come around at some point. You may find, though, that a awkward guy fiercely AVOIDS conflicts. This is because the awkward guy is extremely self-aware, and as a result can be insecure and sensitive to criticism.
This can be a curse and a blessing for a relationships, as conflict can make a relationship grow more resilient and stronger overtime. Funny enough, avoiding conflict can actually harm a relationship.
The point i'm trying to make is: if you're dating an awkward guy, you may need to take the step forward and initiate that tough conversation yourself.
But once that hurdle is overcome, and it comes down to the nitty gritty, the awkward guy can be surprisingly good at navigating fights and heated discussions.
That said, considering his sensitive nature that conversation may not be as difficult as you anticipate it to be. For example, you will NEVER hear the awkward guy emotionally manipulate, gaslight, or belittle your needs by calling you the "crazy" or "emotional" one. Never.
The awkward guy is a pro at putting himself in others shoes and seeing the issue from their perspective, he will always try to understand how your feeling before jumping to conclusions.
In conflict, treat him with the same empathy and respect that he treats you with, and you should be able to sail through the storm and come out on the other side in one piece.
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Physical pleasure for girls is like 90% psychological. Don't quote me on that precise number, i'm just trying to illustrate a simple point about intimacy.
When it comes to sex, a girls pleasure is determined more by how she feels emotionally about someone rather than what he's doing with his hands. Mind-blown.
This is great news for the awkward guy. Because, although he may not even know it, his sensitive nature makes him a master in the art of emotional seduction. And once you've got that going, all the physical stuff will just follow naturally.
Yes, you heard me right! Awkward guys may be some of the best lover out there. I understand that this may be confusing because it's not at all how you stereotypically would imagine the awkward guy to be behind closed doors. I know a Micheal Cera-type doesn't strike you as Mr. Casanova, but hear me out.
When it comes to intimacy, it's incredibly difficult to make accurate snap judgements about how someone will perform in between the sheets. This is often the case with unusual characters, people always have a way of surprising us.
The awkward guy will be the one to surprise you even more. Which is exciting in and of itself, having to earn someones deviant side. Because its only when someone feels truly safe that when they can let their inner freak out.
So, for the best experience possible, always be sure to be open and communicative with an awkward guy, he will definitely appreciate you for it and let you know all night long.
If you're reading this and nodding your head because you have found yourself awkward guy, hold onto him tight and don't let go!