If you clicked on this article, chances are you relate to the title—and for that reason, my heart goes out to you. It’s conflicting, isn’t it? To be in love with someone who is amazing, kind, smart etc., only to find out that their taste in music is—well…crap.
It leads to some interesting and unique challenges in the relationship (most of which are trivial). But you know what? Regardless of the level of seriousness, you’re not alone. There are others in the same predicament (i.e. also in a relationship with a person that listens to shitty music). So, in the spirit of community and shared experiences, here are some struggles that you may be able to relate to.
Note: It’s important to keep in mind that your preferences are all opinion-based and are relative at the end of the day. As shitty as you think their musical taste is, they may be thinking the exact same thing about yours ?
When you hear an amazing song and excitedly share it with your partner.
Them: *no reaction*
You: What?? Seriously?? How can you not LOVE this?!?! ?
Alternatively, when they share a song that they're excited about with you.
Them: OMG! This is so good! You're going to love this!
When the worst song plays on the radio and you go to switch it, but your significant other asks you to leave it on.
Okay, so I guess I can go through mild auditory agony for a few minutes...that's cool. As long as you're happy ?
When they not only like a really annoying song, but get it stuck in their head, so you need to hear it sung/or hummed out loud by them for the entire day (or two...or the entire week...).
Earplugs = sanity.
Choosing to go out dancing somewhere proves to be a difficult dilemma.
One of you wants to head out to an underground hip hop club and the other wants to go line dancing at a country bar. Where do you even meet in the middle? A Zumba class??
Spending money on concerts that you don't really care about.
Concerts are super pricey. Concerts featuring artists that you hate, are unjustifiably pricey. Oh, the things you do for love...
Love > ears/wallet
Or, never having the experience of being at a concert with your significant other.
You can both avoid spending money on something you don't love, but then you're also missing out on spending quality time together.
Ears/wallet > Love
Road trips involve the constant battle of who gets to choose the "next song".
One of the best things about road trips is being able to listen to your favourite music, sing along at the top of your lungs, giggle uncontrollably whenever someone is completely out of tune, etc. But you know what can get in the way of all this fun? Being a good partner, and being fair by agreeing to take turns in choosing the music. How are you supposed to joyously sing along to a song that makes you cringe? You just can't. Now you can only do this half the time (when it's your turn to choose the song)!! ?
*shakes fists angrily in air*
The idea of choosing a wedding playlist is a source of extreme anxiety.
This one speaks for itself.
When you hear really bad music and you're slightly embarrassed that you know a lot of the words.
I wonder who you have to thank for that one.
Getting into heated debates about music and musical artists.
I think you're going to have to agree to disagree.
And finally, the constant shock you feel that the person you love--with all their wonderful qualities, has such shitty taste in music.
It's something you never seem to get used to. You always seem to forget. That is... until the next horrible song comes on the radio and they start singing along happily ?