12 Small Ways To Bring Romance Back Into Your Fizzled Out Relationship
Make long-term relationships romantic, exciting & passionate again with these practical tips you can use.
It's easy to get too comfortable in a relationship, especially when you've been together for what feels like forever. You might have heard from friends or experienced yourself what it's like to be in a relationship for so long that you lose that initial spark. Not sure how to break out of the rut? We're here to share with you small ways that you can easily bring romance back into your relationship.
Relationships take hard work and it's easy to slip into a routine especially when you've been together for a while. Romance is not always a natural thing that happens once you've gotten past the so-called honeymoon phase. One day you're skipping date night out for Netflix and food, and next thing you know, it's all your dating life has become.
Bringing back the romance and passion into your relationship doesn't have to be a huge gesture or an extravagant gift. It's not a bad thing to stay in and to reach a high level of comfort with each other, but there are simple ways to bring back some excitement into your relationship and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.
Here are the easy ways you can bring back romance into your relationship. Sometimes a small gesture can go a long way!
Set aside time for date night once a week
Make sure to set aside quality time for each other every week, so that you don't take your time together for granted. Plan a date at least once a week together, even if it's something super chill like movie night with home-made popcorn.
You can even try to schedule a specific set night every week for you two to spend time together, and take turns planning the date. Dates don't have to be extravagant – you can go on cheap dates like an outdoor picnic or a candlelit dinner at home, a drive-in movie or even a sunset walk!
Go on small or big trips for a change of scenery
A trip can give you the perfect amount of space and time to be together and be just what you need to just enjoy each other's company and get away from your busy schedules and lives. But don't worry, it doesn't have to be a big vacation!
If you don't have the time and/or money to go away, you can do a weekend getaway to a nearby town, go camping in a nearby national park, or even a staycation at a nice Airbnb in your city.
Tell each other why you love each other more
It's so easy to forget to tell each other why you adore each other. You should make time to give each other compliments more often to remind that person why you love them so much. Write them cute "I love you" messages on a Post-It note and throw it in their lunch bag or text them "I love you" every night before you go to bed.
Try something new together or start a project together
A way to bring some novelty and excitement into a long-term relationship is by literally trying something new. Maybe there's a hobby you've always wanted to try, like cooking, photography or hitting the gym or, like .
Love them using their love language
Everyone has their own way of giving and receiving love. The iconic Five Love Languages concept reveals that there are five different ways that people feel loved: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Help your S/O feel super loved by showing them how you care for them using their love language.
For example, if their love language is acts of service, go out of your way to help them with a task. If their love language is quality time, plan a special date where the two of you can be uninterrupted by cell phones or television.
Surprise your S/O with their favourite food
Surprises are a great way to easily bring some romance back into your relationship. It doesn't have to be a big gesture, you can just pick up your S/O's favourite food or treat, whether it's pizza, poutine or cookie dough ice cream, and bring it to their place next time you go over. This will definitely put a smile on bae's face.
Give each other little gifts
Gifts can be a really sweet surprise. It always feels nice and romantic to get a gift just because you love each other and not only because it's a holiday or an anniversary.
You don't have to break the bank, it's the thought that counts. You can give each other little gifts that won't even cost you anything, like a handwritten love letter or a poem! You can also get small gifts like tickets to a local comedy show or a disposable camera so you can take pictures together.
Cook a meal together once a week
Want a fun way to bond at home without spending tons of money? Cooking together! You can choose a set day every week where you cook a meal together at home, and you can even make it fancier by planning out a three-course meal and setting up a romantic candlelit dinner.
Spend some quality time together cooking, while you listen to music or a podcast, or maybe even watch a show on Netflix! Make it a super romantic (and cheap) night in with your BF.
Take photos together and capture your memories
Taking couple photos can be super romantic, especially when you do cute poses with them or look back on all the memories you have together. It also always feels nice to be shown off by the one you love, so you can also shower your boo with some affection on Instagram.
Kiss each other every day
Physical affection is an important part of every relationship. There are practical ways to be more physically affectionate with each other if you feel it's been lacking in your relationship. You can make a pact to kiss each other every day and make sure to create time and space for physical intimacy in your relationship.
Get dressed up for each other
It's so easy once you're super comfortable around each other to feel like you don't need to dress up around them – and it's true, you don't, they still think you're beautiful regardless. However, sometimes it's just nice to see each other all dolled up instead of lounging around only in sweats and to see each other in a new light.
Try to get dressed up and go out together at least once a month!
Give each other a massage
Physical touch is key in a successful relationship and it's even scientific, according to Psychology Today. What better way to spend some time caring for your S/O than by giving them a relaxing massage? You can even get some massage oils for cheap, from places like Sage for $7.95 CAD or Lush for $9.95, if you want to make it even more special.
Every time you touch each other, your body releases the chemical oxytocin, which has several benefits, such as giving a calming sensation, making you more generous and even improving your immune system, according to Psychology Today.
Celebrate the little milestones too
Once you've already been together for several months or years, it's easy to forget about the little milestones in your relationship. If you want an occasion to go out and do something special together regularly, why not celebrate your monthiversary, a new job promotion, nailing a presentation at work or finishing exams!
You don't have to go all out, you can just go for dinner at your favourite restaurant, maybe do a spa day together, or even cook a nice meal for each other at home.