17 Ways To Get Your Man Back After You've Messed Up
It's recovery time.
It's quite common for people to overreact when they're frustrated in the middle of a fight with their significant other. Us girls have a tendency to get super emotional with our boyfriends, and sometimes fight about the silliest things. Men on the other hand can get super rude and say stuff they don't actually mean in the heat of the moment. If you've gone too far during a fight with your boyfriend... don't worry, we've all been there. Getting your boyfriend (ex-boyfriend) back after a fight isn't as impossible as some people make it out to be!
It may take some work and you may have to put aside your pride, but with good timing and strategy, you can win him back!
LUCKILY, we've compiled a list to help you win back your hunnie real quick. Checkkkkk it out!
1. Give him space.
Men need time to think. Don't call, text, tweet or ask his friends or your friends to reach out to him. Giving him space will remind him how important you are to him and let him cool off.
2. Collect your thoughts/emotions.
You need time to cool off too. Work on yourself before working on your relationship. Pull yourself together and think about what the real issue is.
3. Acknowledge the problem.
Be the bigger person and talk about the issue. Behind every petty fight lies a real issue. Be an adult and speak up.
4. Dress as if paparazzi is following you.
Even though Toronto is pretty damn big, it's also pretty damn small. Running into him isn't that unlikely. Be prepared, JUST in case.
5. Draw him in.
Ask him to grab a drink or a quick bite. Don't hit him with the big "talk" right away. Reeeeeel him in.
6. Slowly let the feelings out.
Nothing scares men more than huge WAVES of emotion. Slowly tell him you miss him... don't hit him with it all like a brick wall.
7. Talk in a civil manner.
No fighting is every resolved yelling at each other via text. Pick up the phone or go see him. Face to face (calm) interaction works best.
8. Say no to sex.
Even if you want to more than anything, or you think you'll win him over by undoing your pants... don't. Don't mix physical intimacy with your emotions. You have a lot to sort out before that can be done.
9. Be unpredictable.
Throw him off a little. Maybe reschedule or change plans last minute. Don't play games, but keep him on his toes.
10. Bring out your fun & flirty side.
Don't allow yourself to be serious. Remind him why you're the best possible thing that could have happened to him! That smile will go right to his heart.
11. Admit your faults, but do not beg.
It's totally cool to admit that you were wrong. A fight takes two people, not just one. Just don't beg... no man is ever worth begging for.
12. Give him more space.
Men really don't like being overwhelmed. Give him the time and distance he needs.
13. Don't be annoying on social media.
Posting a billion Instagrams or Snapchat stories will do nothing for your relationship. You may think he'll regret everything when he sees your face online, but he will just think you're happy and don't care about the two of you or your issues.
14. Act mature.
Immaturity is the biggest turn off. Liking his friends' photos on the beach, following random hotties on IG or deleting pictures of the two of you shows that you're not ready for a mature relationship.
15. Think positive thoughts.
Going over and over the same conversation will only make you go crazy. Stay positive and don't focus on the negatives.
16. Keep busy.
If you're at home listening to John Mayer & John Legend crying yourself to sleep, just don't. Make plans with your girlfriends or pick up a few extra shifts at work, so that you won't think about it as much.
17. Remember relationships go through ups and downs.
Don't ever forget your worth. Relationships are tough and take some effort and time, however if he's making you feel less amazing than you are... BUH BYE. You are beautiful and deserve to be happy.
Don't worry, every couple fights. If you don't fight, you are most definitely suppressing real issues and it's not healthy. Stay positive and remember these few tips when you're scrapping it out with bae. Share with your bestie who's going through a rough time with her bf!