This Is The Main Thing That's Sabotaging Your Fitness Goals
And here is how to stop it.
Let's be real, we all compare ourselves to someone. Whether it's your sibling, a friend, or someone you don't even know but just stumbled upon on social media, it's so hard to not compare your journey to others. I, for one, am so guilty of doing this that it actually ruins my day sometimes.
Lady Gaga didn't write the song Born This Way for no reason. You were born the way you were because you're supposed to be unique, even though the entire world can make you feel like you're supposed to be something else. A great example is how popular lip injections got after Kylie Jenner got them. We automatically assumed small lips were 'out' and weren't cute. We all seem to want to look like anyone but ourselves, and that's not okay.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Supporting another's success won't damper yours. Just because everyone you know is getting engaged, having babies, or getting their dream job does not mean you are behind. The same goes for your fitness goals. The girls on Instagram who have 1 million followers and the perfect body? Guess what? That's their job. Jillian Michaels job is to look strong as hell and be a boss. That's her brand. Of course you cannot compare yourself to those kinds of girls, because they took a different journey than you did. Nothing is impossible.
Comparing your fitness journey, and this actually goes for any journey in life, to someone else's brings you nowhere closer to yours. Actually, you're more likely to give up while comparing yourself to someone because you think it's impossible or it will take too long to get there. There is no such thing as the perfect body. There is such a thing as spray tans, lighting, and makeup that will make those fitness models bodies look amazing, but they also can't look like that every single day. We need to remember that perfect is in illusion and you will burn out trying to be like everyone else, when just being yourself is 100% fine.
If you haven't figured it out yet, the main thing sabotaging your fitness goals is comparing yourself to others. While Sally may have started working out at the exact time you did and has better abs than you, that does not mean anything. You know what does mean a lot? What she eats differently, her genetics, her frame of mind, and how dedicated she is. And the fact that it's her journey, not yours.
We all need to remember that social media is a highlight reel. Rarely will you see one of those fitness girls you follow talking about how tired they are, or how they actually gained 5 pounds even though you didn't notice, they did. See? The little things you notice on yourself are not even noticeable to other people. If you think about it, it's super eye opening. If you're finding it too hard to not compare yourself to other people, try taking a social media break. We all need to take a social media break because it's good for the mind, body, and soul. When you don't see pictures on your phone of people to compare yourself to, you stop comparing yourself. It's that easy.
Another way to stop comparing yourself is to set goals that are attainable for your body type. If you want to lose weight, build a booty, or even just make it a goal to work out 3 times a week, make sure you're not trying to do it in a week. Fitness journeys take time, that's why you hardly ever see progress pictures that aren't a few months apart. The only person you should compare yourself to is who you were yesterday, a month ago, and a year ago. If you want to become a better version of yourself, don't look to someone else. Look inside yourself and make that person happy, not everyone on social media.
Last but not least, in order to get rid of the monster that is comparison, you have to teach yourself self love. Of course we will compare ourselves to people we don't know if we don't even want to know ourselves. If you're not happy in your own body, that's the first sign something needs to change. Comparing yourself steals happiness away from you because you're putting your worth into what someone else looks like, and that's not going to get you anywhere. When we're happy with ourselves, that's all we need. Your mind will be clearer, you won't feel the need to fit into a size 2 when you're not one, and you will be happy with whatever size you are.