I am a true believer that core temperament doesn't change over a lifetime. Beliefs, values, and expertise evolve over time -sure, and with experience - obviously. Also, if you find yourself in extreme or new environments, your personality will temporarily adjust accordingly. However, someones baseline generally stays at a constant throughout their life. And that's a good thing!
When it comes to the outgoing and extraverted party girl, once she gets deep into her 20s and 30s - after the late nights of beer pong and keg stands have become but a distance memory -the party girl spirit still remains within her. In other words, you can take the girl out of college but you can't take the college out of the girl.
Later in life, that rebellious and adventurous spirit will still be very much present. Because that is her baseline. But considering the change in environment and lifestyle that quality and character trait will emerge in a different way. And when she finds that special someone to settle down and build a life with, she will be the best type of partner to walk the road of life with.
Over the next pages we will be exploring some situations and peeling back to layers to explore what it really means to be "a party girl". We will look at the party girl with her man and her future kids. We will also explore the party girl up close and personal, behind closed doors and finally on a day-to-day. Read on for more!
For With Her Man, click "NEXT"
Traditionally speaking, we often hear that the party girl doesn't make for great "wife material". I roll my eyes so hard - and you should too - when I hear this.
We live in a post-gender culture and society, I think this uber conservative and backwards mentality is good for the trash. The grown party girl is not what you would typically imagine and stereotype her to be. Let's break this down a little bit more.
The party girl is actually strong-willed, assured, and relentlessly optimistic. She has the magic ability to take the most negative situation and make the best out of it and infect everyone around her with this positive energy.
The party girl is an extremely agreeable person as well. She loves people, and thrives off social interaction. When it comes to those she loves, she is very caring and keeps them close to her heart. Making her a warm, loving and caring partner.
When it comes to her man, husband, boyfriend, you get it - she is always going to make an effort to treat them with care and attention, and of course, be open with them at all times. The party girl has nothing to hide.
She does loves to feel new sensations, of course, and stepping outside of her comfort zone IS her comfort zone, and she will make sure to take her man along the ride with her.
She expects him to do the same. She will not settle for someone who doesn't appreciate her spontaneous nature and will look for a partner that nurtures this side of her. But that can also keep her in check.
So when it comes to her guy, he never has to guess or be insecure about where he stands in her life because she will never be shy to say it out loud. She will always speak her mind.
For With Her Kids, Click "NEXT"
The grown party girl, without a doubt, makes a killer mom. First of all because being a mom take a whole lot of energy. Like non-stop 24/7 energy.
Running around all day to take care of other mini humans lives - you have to be a very active person to keep up. And we all know the party girl is forever and always active.
The grown party girl is not that mom you see talking on the phone while her kid is fiddling and drooling all over her phone - no, the party girl is on the ground, in the mud, digging for bugs with her kids and throwing a Frisbee around. Getting her hands dirty is default mode.
Not only is the party girl able to roll up her sleeves and do all the dirty work of parenting, she is a master task juggler and doesn't sweat the small stuff or get burnt out easily.
This innate quality makes her a great partner to raise a family with as well. And you thought party girls don't make good wife material!
As a naturally outgoing extravert the party girl thrives off activity, it actually fuels her. Not drains her. Which means that even when her kids drive her a little bonkers, she will naturally have the patience and to deal with them.
Kids can be a handful, but the party girl is always ready to attack and take on the toughest tasks. She can seamlessly juggle all the mom-duties without feelings totally overwhelmed.
She is and will be - a A1 mom, with no doubt about it. She's that kind of super mom that all the other moms look at in admiration and ask "how the hell does she do it". Well she loves to party, and now the party is with her kids.
For Up Close And Personal, click "NEXT"
The party girl has a ton of great qualities, but similar to any strong personality or character trait there are some challenge and side-effects that come along with it.
The party girl loves being active. She's is possessed by a kind of restless spirit and sitting still for any period of time is extremely challenging. She always needs to be stimulated.
On one hand, this makes her a great partner in crime, because she will take her S/O on some crazy adventures down the line and will always be active in taking care of her life and home. Never a dull moment with the party girl.
However, this trait can sometimes dip into an extreme, and the party girl can get tired and burnt out, but she may not realize it as quickly and easily as her more introspective and quiet counterparts.
That's why the party girl needs someone by her side who can keep her wild nature in check. A solid ying to her yang. Someone who can nurture and support her rebellious spirit, but not let it dominate her and her life over.
That said, if a guy finds himself with a party girl, he must keep some of these fundamental guidelines in mind. Or else he may find himself chasing her unpredictable nature and have a hard time keeping up.
One piece of advise, don't chase the party girl. Instead, be the rock that she needs to keep her grounded when the desire to chase excitement and novelty takes over. Every party girl needs that in her life.
If you can provide that for her, without stifling her, she will be forever loyal to you. This is the type of person that she truly needs by her side to smooth things out in the long-run.
For Behind Closed Doors, Click "NEXT"
The party girl, as you can imagine, can definitely throw down behind closed doors. All that restless energy has to be released somewhere!
However, don't be too quick to stereotype the party girls intimate preferences. She is just like any other human. Widely fickle and complicated when it comes to love and romance.
Party girls are, however, very much in tuned with their body and needs. They will not be shy to ask for what they want, or tell you when something isn't working for them.
Considering their adventurous spirit, this would naturally extend to the bedroom as well. As you know being with the same person for decades to come can send even the most routine-loving person into a spiral of doubt.
But if you choose to lock down your future with an ex party girl, then worry not! Because she will most definitely be sure to always keep things fresh, new and exciting.
The party girls doesn't shy away from novel experiences, she runs towards them. What a treat for a long-term partnership. Trying new things is what makes a couple thrive and grow together. Right?
Make sure to tend to her free-spirit outside the bedroom and she will be sure to bring it into the bedroom. Because it's only when people feel truly appreciated for their true selves that they can let themselves fully go.
As complex and multi-faceted as the party girl may seem on the outside, she is quite simple and uncomplicated when behind closed doors. She appreciates a healthy dose of love and affection like any other living breathing human.
For The Day To Day, click "NEXT"
As we come to the end of demystifying the party girl spirit, let's zoom out and take a look at the party girl on a day to day. It's easy to jump to conclusions about what kind of partner the party girl will make in the future.
Maybe you assume she will be flighty, erratic, unfaithful and perpetually bored relentlessly seeking her next rush. Well yes, maybe. But those base traits are actually positive ones if they are nurtured and expressed in the right environment.
In the right environment, flighty and erratic becomes fun and spontaneous. And perpetually bored becomes seeking adventure. And unfaithful, well, preventing that takes constant mutual team work ALL couples deal with regardless of their base personality.
That said, what i'm trying to get at here, is that on a day-to-day the party girl can make even the most mundane tasks such as grocery shopping an adventure.
Because at the end of the day, our day-to-day lives can become very ground-hog-like routine of long commutes, water cooler talk, and Netflix and sleep. rinse. wash. repeat.
However, when a guy chooses to build a life with a party girl, he will find that she can make a party out of every and any insignificant and repetitive evening.
How can you ask for more than that? To me, finding someone who can make even the most boring task an adventure sounds like a dream!
It's time to ditch the "party girls don't make good partners" stereotype and peel the layers back to have a deeper look at what it ACTUALLY means to be a true party girl at heart.