It's not enough to be good in bed anymore - you also have to be good in bed over text. According to Cosmo, the best sexts are like foreplay... "they're spicy but still leave a little to the imagination."

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When it comes to sexting, there are certain tricks that will make your words flow a bit more smoothly. But it's not all about slick texting.

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There are also a number of things you need to keep in mind to make sure you're not exposing yourself to potential leaks or worst - a sext sent to the wrong person. To help you navigate these murky waters, here are 11 dos and dont's of sending a steamy sext. 


Make sure he's alone before sending one

This is a no brainer. There's nothing worse than sending them a graphic sext only to find out they were sitting beside their friend or mom. Awk.

Find which angles work for you 

If you're taking photos, you're in full control over how you are perceived. Take the time to figure out which angles are the most flattering.

Cover your tracks 

Sexting is only fun until you're accidentally caught doing it. Regularly delete photos and texts, or at the very least, make sure your phone is password protected.

Be careful 

This is common sense but PLEASE, for the love of God, make sure you're sending it to the right person. Please.

Answer promptly 

Nothing kills the mood than having to wait too long for a reply. Keep your answers quick and timely to keep the convo flowing.


Be afraid to get creative

Sexting is your chance to say or do things that you would be a bit too shy to do in person. Time to unleash your fantasies!

But don't go too far out of your comfort zone

Fantasies aside, it's important to feel comfortable with what's going down, even if it is via text.

Include your face in photos

Obviously, you want to think that you can trust anyone you're sexting, but it's better to be safe than sorry. Sending pics with your head cut off is best to protect yourself from embarrassing leaked photos.

Give without receiving 

It's the same with sex IRL. The bottom line is to make sure you're getting as much out of it as they are.

Sext before having sex 

This is a don't for a number of reasons. First of all, you want to save some of the excitement for the first time you get into bed with them. Another issue is over delivering over text only to...under perform when it comes to the actual deed. It's best to not do anything over text that you haven't done in person.