20 Ways You've Been Fvcking Yourself Over In Your 20s
Being in your 20s is somewhat terrifying. Your 20's can consist of a lot of your life's milestones. Moving out for the first time, heart-break, new love, graduation, traveling, finding a real job, or maybe even starting a family.
Whether you have experienced some of these milestone yet or not, there are definitely a few habits you need to ditch before you can call yourself a full-fledged "adult".
Here is a list of a few things we suggest avoiding in order to make your 20's a little more manageable. Good luck guys, we got this! ?
1. You make excuses for yourself
A lot of people (including myself) are guilty of this one. The only person you're hurting by making these excuses is yourself.
2. You avoid replying or responding to messages
This was fine when you were in high school and weren't interested in talking to the person that asked you out. But realistically, you're too old for that shit now. Nobody likes to be ghosted, just be real with them and face your problems.
3. You let your parents constantly pay your bills
Yes, this is 100% the easy way out of your financial problems, but it does not teach you how to budget or spend your money wisely. It's okay to be broke sometimes, but it's not okay to wait on your parents for the solution. Just remember that many people aren't lucky enough to have parents that will support them, so do not take them for granted.
4. You sleep in past noon on a regular basis
I get it, we all love the Saturday morning routine that does not involve a morning alarm. Although, if you're doing this multiple times a week you may want to think about how productive you're being by spending half your day in bed.
5. You don't visit your family enough
It may not seem like it now, but visiting your family on a semi regular basis is important. You don't want to be looking back a few years down the line and regret not being there for pivotal moments in your family members lives.
6. You let your drunk self play with your visa card
I am guilty of this. It is never fun looking at your online statement the morning after to see that you took 40 dollars out at the club, with an additional 4 dollar service fee, and then followed by a 20 dollar pizza. New rule, no visas while drunk.
7. You get down about things you have no control of
Sometimes we all need to throw ourselves a pity party. Just remember that you being sad will ultimately not change the outcome of things that have already happened. Keep your chin up!
8. You never cook at home
I know, dishes suck and you can't cook. That's what I thought too, but looking at all the money I have spent on fast food in the past really inspired me to learn how to cook at home. Plus, it's usually a lot healthier, and you end up with more left-overs.
9. You don't let yourself love or be loved
You're young, so it's time to start experiencing things. I'm not saying you need to jump into a relationship or go on a bunch of dates, but I am saying that you should put yourself out there. You'll never know what you're missing if you're constantly holding yourself back from others.
10. You hang out with people because you feel obligated
This is a PSA, it is okay to outgrow a friendship. It's not super likely that you and your high school friends will all be just as close 3 years later, and if hanging out with them is awkward, then don't!
11. You resist change
Sorry guys, but you're going to be experiencing nothing but change in your 20's. Whether it's your living situation, relationship, job, lifestyle, body or friendship you pretty much have to be open to change. It can definitely be scary, but it is usually for the best.
12. You're always late for things
We all have a smartphone, which means we all have a means of telling time. Start living the mentality of "If you're not early you're late". Being late is unprofessional, and straight up stressful, so give yourself a break and start leaving 10 minutes earlier to everything.
13. You don't do things for yourself
If you have not gathered this yet, your 20s is your time to be selfish! You have a lot of freedom and only a few commitments. Make time to travel, explore, and learn while you can!
14. You constantly feel like you need closure
I get that closure is nice, and makes you feel more comfortable. But realistically, a lot of the time it just won't happen. In your 20's make it your mission to stop holding at least one grudge; it's not doing you any good.
15. You're always "too busy"
Too busy to workout, to busy to hang out with friends, too busy for a part time job, etc. We are all busy, it just depends how good you are at budgeting your time. (See point 1 if you are having trouble grasping this concept).
16. You blame your actions on other people/situations
Sure, sometimes things are taken completely out of your control, but pointing blame is usually not the solution. You'll be much less frustrated if you accept a situation for what it is, rather than saying "While if she didn't do this then I wouldn't be screwed over". Put your energy into a solution rather than figuring out who fvcked up.
17. You don't apologize or own up to things
This is one of my number 1 pet peeves. Saying sorry is necessary, even when you may not deem it that important. It takes maturity to be able to own up to your own mistakes, and other people will recognize that when you apologize.
18. Your expectations for living are too high
It's okay that your apartment does not look like a spinning image of your Pinterest board (props to you if it does). You have your whole life (and income) ahead of you to have that cute condo in liberty village decked out in west elm furniture.
19. You compare your life/body/income to others
This will never make you feel better. Once you stop comparing yourself, and hating on people for their achievements, you will definitely live a happier life.
20. You don't take advantage of the fact that you're in your 20s.
Realistically, this is just a list on the internet. If you don't agree with it, thats totally okay. You're in your 20's. This is the time to form your own opinions, learn from your mistakes, and get to know yourself. And if you don't need a list to tell you that, then I think you're doing just fine. :)