And no, I'm not talking about the "See You Next Tuesday" C-word. I'm talking about being called "crazy".
Recently I’ve noticed that people (especially our generation) associate being called “crazy” with a lot of negative connotations. When someone calls another person crazy, it’s usually because they don’t understand the other person’s actions, or simply have no better way to make the other person feel insecure.
When my parents separated when I was younger, I asked my dad why my mom was so sad. He wrote it off as her being “crazy” which planted a pretty skewed idea in my mind about expressing one’s emotions. I know now that he was hurt and angry when he said this, but that’s not really a great excuse. Since then I have noticed that some of my closest friends (who are fvcking great gal pals) have been called crazy by people they were seeing.
Each time they were labeled as crazy it was because they were;
- Expressing an emotion
- Voicing an opinion
- Reacting to something the other person did
AKA being a normal human being. But after being labeled as “crazy”, it's natural to feel somewhat hurt. When someone basically says your opinions/emotions are ridiculous and out of line, you start to feel self-conscious about how much you care about the situation.
I’m so tired of this generation’s obsession with it not being cool to actually care about things. If you’re passionate about something, you’re obsessive. And if something really affects you on an emotional level, you shouldn’t express that. If somebody is comfortable enough with you to share a personal feeling or thought, don’t write them off as crazy. Even if you don’t agree with what they are saying.
Honestly, I want to be around people who are inspired, and motivated. Those who get excited about explaining their future projects, or gush over an amazing experience they had are so much more interesting to me than the typical “sad boyz” nation that our generation is slowing turning into.
If somebody is comfortable enough with you to share a personal feeling or thought, don’t write them off as crazy. Even if you don’t agree with what they are saying, they are likely in a vulnerable place right now and just want someone to vent to. If you make the mistake of labeling someone as crazy, you’re probably confusing it with being emotional.
As a reminder:
- Mentally deranged, especially as manifested in a wild or aggressive way.
So, next time any of you get called crazy, embrace it. It likely means you made a good point, or let your body feel something that the other person was not capable of fully understanding. Or it means you crushed a 26 of vodka in one night, still made it into the bar, and woke up the next morning without a hang over. And in that case, you are crazZzzZzZzzYyy (in the “aggressive” way).