I went on dates in three different Canadian cities and the differences were… alarming
I've dated across Canada like it's a government-funded research project. Three cities — no apps, no algorithm, no curated bio. Just raw, in-person interaction and whatever personality happened to be seated across from me.
What I discovered is this: dating in Canada is aggressively geographic. From Toronto lawyers to Montreal creatives and Vancouver ski bros — the results of my romantic life have been chaotic yet informative.
If you're from Calgary, relax. You didn't make this list — and that's probably a good thing.
Dating in Montreal
We can't talk MTL without talking about Anglophones vs Francophones.
Let's start with the transplants: You will be hard-pressed to find an Anglophone who is employed in a way that suggests he has, or will ever have ... what do we call those again? Ah yes. A Career.
You will, however, have your choice between "DJs", "Artists", or "back of the house" at restaurants. No shade to the back of the house BTW. I prefer that over a male hostess. That would be wild. That is a 19-year-old girl's summer job.
Yes. The MTL Anglophone is a particular breed of man, BUT I will let you in on a sickening secret: the ones that do have a career are even worse than the ones that don't. The salaried guys who don't rely on tips to pay rent? They just have vague and corporate jobs like "finance" or "finance". They live in places like Griffintown (why?). They love a Zara chino with a cuffed ankle come spring (dump HIM).
The truth is, MTL can be a transient place. Lots of people go to McGill or Concordia, but eventually bounce after getting their degree. If they don't move to Europe (they don't), they move back home. So if you do have an ex who happens to stay in the province... brace yourself.
If you do not get married and never divorce, HE WILL end up hooking up with your friend. He will hook up with your enemies. If he could hook up with your mom, he would — and if his name is Jean-Paul and he smokes a pack of Belmonts a day? He probably will. Nothing is off the table.
As far as the Francophones are concerned — as someone who failed French 10,11, and 12 — I would not know. What I do know is that if his name is "Jean-Francois", "Jean-Pierre", "Pierre-Luc", or, worst of all, "Jean-Baptiste", he is a no from me.
Most likely to: have a hyphen in their name
Pro Tip: If you don't get out much, get out more. Hinge is the elephant graveyard, and Raya (should you be lame enough to pay for it) is useless.
Score: 6.5/10
Dating in Toronto
Dating in Toronto is weird because there are the Harvey Specter's and then there are the guys who you will see at the Spadina subway station. There's no in-between. And I've dated both.
The Harvey Specter prototype is, in many ways, what we would call... a geek. He doesn't think this. He actually thinks the opposite. That he is cool and suave, giving James Bond. In reality he's giving Zara blue suit and not much else.
He can talk about wine in more in-depth ways than simply "boxed" or "not boxed". He knows what tannins are. And if you dare indulge him, he will teach you what they are, too. Beware: he is a big "after-work" drinks guy — and should you strike up a relationship with him, at some point this will become code for "cheating".
Now, Harvey Specter is a step up from the MTL Finance Bro — but not by much. If he is a lawyer, good luck. He will trick you into thinking he can provide for you, but really, he's a junior associate and will be working to pay off his student loans for the next 50 years. His apartment is the same shoebox as the hipster f**kboy, only he has never even heard of a Togo couch, let alone bought a fake one off FB Marketplace!
He does have a maid who comes once a week, though, so that's nice. However, he also counts his steps and tries to take the stairs when he can... so that cancels out.
Pro Tip: If he's a lawyer and you're not — skip it. Lawyers can only date lawyers. They can also divorce them without having to shell out for legal fees. So in the end, it pays for itself.
As far as the ex-art school "creatives" go — I'm never not amazed at the ability hipster f**k boys have to never have a real job and still afford a $7 coffee three times a day. Spoiler alert: It's their parents'. They either pay for their apartment or they live at home.
These art boys, unfortunately, also wear Zara; they're just hitting a different rack. One with fisherman sweaters and suede Chelsea boots.
Toronto is chaotic, but it has one major advantage: sheer volume. You can sample every genre of man in a single fiscal quarter. Will it end in romance? Rarely. Will it end in a dramatic retelling over martinis with your girlfriends? Always. And that is why, no matter how much we hate her, we are all Carrie Bradshaw.
Most likely to: Have a secret "old money" themed Pinterest board.
Score: 7/10
Dating in Vancouver
Ok, I'm from Vancouver, so I'm gonna go hardest here. Vancouver men are brutal. Full stop.
Unofficially, Vancouver has the most attractive women per capita anywhere in Canada. The women are gorgeous, and being thirteen and chubby in the city felt like I was paying karmic debt from a past life. One of my best friends looked like Sydney Sweeney—only prettier?? She had a good personality too (b*tch). It was character-building for me, and I'm a better man for it.
And therein lies the problem.
When you have an entire city full of 10/10 women who hike, lift, juice, do hot yoga, have perfect skin year-round, and can still drink you under the table like a "cool girl"? The men start to miscalculate their market value.
My unofficial math says the ratio is about 1:30. For every genuinely dateable man, thirty single stunners are trying to fall in love.
These men go out with super hot women, and instead of being humbled and grateful, they develop a God complex and turn into professional Hinge swipers with no personality who stay out until 4 a.m. talking about their bad app ideas with each other and calling it a "business meeting".
I want to drop these dudes in the middle of Hollywood Blvd. in L.A. and watch them get humbled by the ten Pink Taco waiters who look all like Chris Evans.
Now, because I'm an equal opportunist, I'm gonna roast the ladies too. Y'all are part of the problem. When you reward mediocrity because his Dad has a boat in Deep Cove, you inflate the ecosystem. When you reply to a text sent after 10 p.m. when he hasn't hit you back all day, you perpetuate the cycle!
Stop dating men you are visibly hotter than just because they work in "real estate development". None of us even knows what that really means. Don't be so desperate (I'm sorry, some of you are). Don't be a gold digger. Put the shovel down, babe. Buy your own Superpuff jacket.
Make these guys grateful they've even had the opportunity to take out these full-package gym-rat hotties who can hold a plank for 45 minutes.
Pro Tip: Date someone who is not from Vancouver. The further East you go, the better. Skip Burnaby, and then keep going (but stop at Surrey and then take a left at the roundabout and keep going to Port Coquitlam).
Most likely to: Split the bill and/or be hiding his true sexuality
Score: 2/10
Next stop: New Brunswick.
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