Please complete your profile to unlock commenting and other important features.

Please select your date of birth for special perks on your birthday. Your username will be your unique profile link and will be publicly used in comments.
Narcity Pro

This is a Pro feature.

Time to level up your local game with Narcity Pro.

Pro

$5/month

$40/year

  • Everything in the Free plan
  • Ad-free reading and browsing
  • Unlimited access to all content including AI summaries
  • Directly support our local and national reporting and become a Patron
  • Cancel anytime.
For Pro members only Pro
Summary

11 Things Only Couples Who Live With Their Parents Can Relate To & Is The Free Food Worth It?

"Not under my roof" still applies when you're 24 and engaged.

Morgan Leet and partner. Right: Fridge with food.

Morgan Leet and partner. Right: Fridge with food.

Editor

The views expressed in this Opinion article are the author’s own and do not necessarily reflect the views of Narcity Media.

There's a common stereotype about Millennials all moving back in with their parents, and honestly, it's true.

Especially during the pandemic, waves of my friends all shacked up in their childhood bedrooms, as full-grown adults. I was one of those so-called "adults," and my boyfriend and I moved into his mom's house for over a year.

A year might not sound like a long time, but when you have a full-on career, are out of university, and are living with your partner's parents, it sure feels like it. Oh yeah, and we got engaged part way through.

I'm hoping that I'm not the only one out there who's in a couple and decided to put the adulting part of their lives on hold, and can relate to these things.

Although I've moved on, I still think about all that free food, the spotless household, and the comfort of having a parent around.

For all of you out there still asking your mom what's for dinner tonight — this is for you.

The free food is a huge plus

Okay, let me take you to my happy place.

My boyfriend's mom just came home from Costco. I walk into a spotless kitchen and open the fridge. It's all organized, and full of anything my heart desires, including my favourite juice boxes.

Life is good.

When your co-workers ask about your living situation, it's awkward

Nothing like being dropped off at the office happy hour by a parent, because you share a car as well as a house! I worked with people older than me, so felt extra child-like explaining my situation.

You kinda feel like you have the same mom...

When you both live with one parent, or set of parents, you kind of start to feel the parental love on all sides. His mom would do things for me all the time that made me feel like her kid, which was super cute, but also odd.

You have to put a hold on fights until you can escape to the bedroom

There's nothing worse than when you're mid-fight and the parents walk in. You have to paint on a smile, even though you're super annoyed.

Then you kind of have to do this whisper-fight thing once you are alone, just in case they overhear.

Nothing like a family dinner with a side of awkward tension!

If you do fight in the living room, their parent probably won't side with you

Sometimes you just can't help it, and the argument has to be done in front of spectators.

Just know that the person with the parent there has a genetic advantage on who they side with. And no matter what, the family will always pipe in with an opinion.

The free rent doesn't hurt either

The food is great, but there's nothing to pad out your bank account like not having to cough up a grand a month just to live. We literally saved over $12,000, just on rent alone.

You see your partner revert into their 16-year-old self

When people are around their family for too long, they sometimes fall back into old patterns. Whether it's just not acting like a grown adult or being super messy, it's not super attractive.

"Not under my roof" still applies when you're 24 and engaged

Anyone who's moved back in with a parent knows that the ground rules stay the same. Respect is key when you're fully mooching off them.

You think about moving out, then calculate how much rent is and how much you make

It can be tempting to consider moving out on a monthly basis, and then you check the rental prices. Yeah, it was a no for us for a long time, for that reason alone.

The parents clearly love every minute of it (mostly)

From our experience, as much as they complain at times, parents love having kids back around. If it was any longer than a year I'm not so sure, but it was actually a really fun way to all bond.

You keep saying it's temporary, but low-key never want to leave

When it does come time to leave, you'll probably be sad. It's kinda like going off to university all over again, but now you have way more bills.

Chin up all you fellow birds who haven't quite flown the nest yet!

Explore this list   👀

    • Editor

      Morgan Leet (she/her) is an Editor for Narcity Media Group. After graduating from Carleton University’s School of Journalism and Communication, she jumped into fulfilling her dream as a journalist, merging her passion for travelling with writing. After working in the print media world on Canada’s East Coast, she joined Narcity with a move to B.C., drawn to the beauty of Western Canada. Since then, she's documented her experience moving to Vancouver, covering everything from local events to bucket-list travel destinations across Canada's West Coast.

    7 of the biggest mistakes I see people make when they move to Vancouver, as a local

    Are you taking the Burrard Street bridge during rush hour?😬

    You're not a true Vancouverite unless you've experienced these 13 things

    How many can you check off? Tally your score at the end!

    This enchanting small town set on a BC island was named among North America's 'most peaceful'

    Sandy beaches, ancient forests and a cozy town — anyone?. 🌲

    This Ontario gem with waterfront towns and beaches is one of Canada's 'best' spots to live

    It has "large" homes "priced much lower" than major Canadian cities.

    New data reveals the 'most peaceful' places to live and Canadian towns demolished US ones

    Five Canadian towns were named the most serene on the continent. 🍁